Privilege Denying Dude:
[Picture: Background: 8 piece pie style color split with red and teal alternating. Foreground: White guy with glasses and light shadow wearing a sweat shirt over a button down and short black hair. Has a smug, arrogant facial expression and crossed arms.
Top text: “ [autism claimed] ” Bottom text: “ [the life of my children.] ”]
CAN’T STAND ALLISTIC SUPREMACISTS WHO SAY THIS. x_x
A diagnosis of autism is not a death sentence. Autistic people are perfectly capable of leading happy lives—allistic people just need to stop being SUCH SUPREMACIST DOUCHEFUCKS ABOUT IT.
“Allism claimed the life of my parents.” (sarcasm)
Cure allism now!
^ reblogging for commentary
I guess I’m an allistic douchebro, because I think autism claimed the life of my brother when it’s all he is defined by, because he can’t feed himself, clothe himself, or communicate with others (at all - it’s not just a social problem for him, he just can’t talk). Autism is the reason my brother’s body is covered in scars and graft marks from third degree burns. Autism is the reason my brother resorts to self abusive behaviours that leave bruises on his body, because he gets so frustrated by the fact that he is unable to communicate. Autism is the reason my parents’ home is constantly inundated with speech pathologists, occupational therapists, behavioural therapists, and a plethora of other specialists who have done absolutely NOTHING to help improve his condition. Autism is the reason that my brother can’t even go to the bathroom by himself without smearing his own shit all over the bathroom walls.
Maybe high-functioning autistic people should stop conveniently sweeping under the rug the fact that autism is a spectrum disorder, and that means that even though autism hasn’t claimed their life, it might be claiming the lives of other people living with the disorder. And it’s not selfish for parents to making the claim that autism has taken control of their lives too, because my mother has sacrificed everything in her life to take care of my brother: her relationship with my dad, her career, her own children, her aspirations. She has done it without a single complaint, without a moment of regret. She works relentlessly to ensure my brother stays out of a group home, even though he is now taller and heavier than she is, and is prone to violent outbursts.
Yes, I understand that statements like this might be hurtful to some autistic people, but for others, it’s their reality. This isn’t a question of privilege, it’s a multitude of different experiences being stuck under a single umbrella.
Okay speaking from the point of view of an allistic person with no immediate family members diagnosed as autistic. So… I’m really sorry if I overstep my bounds, I so am. But I just… I have so many problems with this and I have privilage in this sense because I am not autistic and just… God this pissed me off so much. Please, please someone let me know if this gets problematic at any point.
TW: lots of cursing.
First thing. Congratulations, you are indeed a douchbro, good for you recognizing that about yourself.
Second thing. No autism did not claim the life of your brother. For one thing, the way you speak about him, I’m assuming he’s still alive so, you know that’s just a little messed up. But, regardless, AUTISM DOES NOT KILL PEOPLE! Even if we’re speaking in a ‘functioning in society’ sort of way, autism still didn’t do that. Autism does not impair someone’s ability to function in society! Society’s fucked up standards, ridiculous reinforcement of the norm and general lack of any willingness to adapt to make things more accessible for people who fall outside the culturally defined norm, THAT! is what impairs someone’s ability to function in society. Okay.
There’s an Einstein quote (think that’s who it is) that goes somethign like ‘everyone is a genius but if you judge a fish by it’s ability to climb a tree, it’ll live it’s whole life believing it’s stupid’. I think that’s what we do to people who are neurotypical (autistic or otherwise) in this society. We expect them to function in a way their brains were simply not designed to do and then we invalidate them when they can’t. Instead of, you know, actually fucking adapting to them, making an effort, making the world more fucking accessible to people, you know HELPING PEOPLE! Everyone is fucking different okay. Not everyone has to be exactly the fucking same, it’s okay and you can still be happy.
Also, fucking fuck you for flaunting your fucking privilege (privilege I fucking have to) and whining about how your family member’s lives are made worse off or whatever the fuck you’re implying because your brother has autism. How about we talk about how difficult his life must be. The whole fucking world against him, treating him like he’s an invalid, like he doesn’t matter. Fuck that shit. That’s a problem. It is absolutely fucking selfish as hell to talk about someone with autism and only talk about how hard their family must have it, or to have a family member with autism and talk about how hard you have it and not mention, not discuss how it’s difficult for the other person. Who has to live in this messed up world that’s against them! The world is not against you, not like that, not for that reason. So fuck that noise. Step back, seriously, take a step back and consider your brother for a moment okay.
Also fuck you for implying that being non verbal is the same fucking thing as not being able to communicate. That hits close to home with me because my little brother was no verbal until he was nearly 7. he managed to communicate just fine. We adapted with him, never talked about how difficult we had it, he was the one who had to live with the fact that the world wasn’t geared for him, for years.
This is absolutely a fucking question of privilege, okay. Your privilege, my fucking privilege okay. The world fucking works with us in this respect, alright. The world is fucking designed for us (terms of neurotypical/allistic folks, not getting into anything else), not for your brother, not for some of my friends, not for a lot of fucking awesome people. And that’s wrong as god damned hell. The sheer fact that anyone would make a claim that implies that being non verbal, not functioning exactly the same way you do, or even just being ‘different’ is the same thing as DEATH!? The fact that people would rather make that sort of claim, that they’d try to fix their fucking child! (who has NOTHING! wrong with them) rather than the fucking world that’s against them. That’s a privilege thing. Telling people they ought to change to suit the world rather than that the fucked up standards of the world would change. That’s fucking privilege.
In conclusion. Fuck that fucking noise.
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